23 May 2018

Key Tips On Spending Time With Your Children and Work When A Single Parent

You’ve been a single parent for years. You made this decision because you don’t want your children to be involved in an unhealthy relationship. And while your job enables you to pay for all your children’s needs, you admit that there are times when it can be difficult. Working full time and spending time with your children is something that requires effort from you. You might meet your responsibility as a parent and as an employee but at the end of the day, doing these things will leave you exhausted – too exhausted that you can no longer do anything at home or take care of yourself. This has also been the reason why you’ve been sick and stressed lately.

Wearing two hats every day is never easy. For one, you have to make sure that the stress you’re getting from work won’t affect your interaction with your children, and vice versa. Managing your time can also become an issue in the long run. To ensure that you can spend time with your children and work as a single parent, consider these tips:

1. Let go of the guilt: Being a single parent will require you to be with your children 24/7 – of course, who else can better take care of your children, right? You might have this kind of notion when you report to work but if you want to function as an employee and single parent, let go of this guilt. Instead, think of how your role in the company can benefit your children in the long run. This will serve as your motivation to work while saving yourself from stress.

2. Find quality Child Care: One of the reasons why you might not be able to perform at work is that you’re worried about how your children are doing. Steer away from situations like these by hiring quality childcare which can take care of your children when you’re working. Ask your friends and family for recommendations and find childcare suitable for your needs and budget.

3. Have “me” time: Regardless of how busy you are, you should find time to relax. This will serve as your avenue to recharge and be prepared to juggle two roles again. If you love baking, free your schedule over the weekend and make brownies for your children. If you love the arts, visit newly opened museums all by yourself and bask in the moment. Doing these things might seem so simple but this can do wonders for your health, especially mentally.

4. Remember to set boundaries: When your working schedule is 9AM-5PM during weekdays, don’t finish office presentations during the weekends. In the same manner, when you’re in the office, you shouldn’t spend hours talking to your children on the phone. If you want to manage being a parent and an employee, you should set boundaries. When it’s time for work, you should work. When it’s time to become a mother, be one. You shouldn’t mix any of these with the other as this can be very stressful not only for you but your employer and children as well.

5. Just breathe: Being a single parent is a commitment. And regardless of how much you prepare for it, there will always be a few bumps along the way. If you see yourself lose your temper because of your child’s behavior, breathe. If you think you can no longer fulfill these roles at the same time, breathe. Keep in mind that you’re doing all of this for your children’s welfare.

Being a single parent is never easy, much more that you’re doing it with a full-time job on the side. And feeling tired because you’ve juggled through these roles is understandable. Aside from taking care of your children and earning for them, you should also acquire single parent cover from your insurance policy. This will help you and your children in times of emergencies, especially when it requires finances.

Jessica Wilson
Jessica is a professional health expert who works for some major health industry giants. She currently writes for Membersown and is dedicated to helping people learn more about health related topics along the journey. When she's not a health advocate, she enjoys some down time traveling or talking with family.

21 May 2018

Signs You're Ready To Become A First Time Parent

You might know that you want kids one day, but that doesn’t mean you’re ready to become a parent. Being a parent, especially a first time parent, will be one of the most transformational experiences of your entire life. Having a small human, a small piece of yourself to look after is an eye opening experience and will teach you a lot. Here are the signs to look out for that will give you an indication of whether you’re ready for this experience or not:

You’re Willing To Make Sacrifices
There’s no denying that having a baby comes with making sacrifices. You’ll be sacrificing your sleep - be prepared to feel exhausted for the next 18 years. You’ll also need to sacrifice money and a few of the luxuries you have enjoyed thus far if you don’t have an unlimited budget. Babies are expensive, and get even more expensive as they grow up!

You’re Doing It For The Right Reasons
There are right reasons to have a baby, and questionable reasons to have a baby. A baby doesn’t keep a relationship or a marriage together. Don’t bring a baby into the mix if you and your partner aren't happy. Things will become even more challenging. You know deep in your heart whether you’re doing this for the right reasons or not.


You Have The Capacity To Love
A child needs unlimited amounts of love, so you need to make sure you have the capacity to accept their love and offer all you have to them. Kids that don’t feel loved grow up to have issues, to say the least. Loving yourself is an extremely important factor too. Your child will learn how to love from you, and you can bet they’ll learn to feel the same way about themselves as you do about yourself. Perhaps you know you have the capacity to love, but you want to give that love to a child that is already here and hasn’t experienced much of it. You can visit FundYourAdoption.org for details and get an idea of whether doing this is a good fit for you. Sometimes, giving a child like this a better life is one of the most rewarding things you can do.

You Know How To Take Care Of Yourself 
You need to be able to take good care of yourself before you become a parent. You’ll have yourself and another little person to take care of when you have a baby, and it’ll go on day after day after day. You won’t get a break!

You And Your Partner Have Discussed it At Length
You need to make sure your partner is on the same page as you. You might be ready, but if they’re not, you can expect problems. Don’t just expect them to come around once you’re pregnant!

You Get Broody And Envious When Other Friends Have Babies
It’s normal to feel broody sometimes, but if you find yourself feeling like this more often than not, you might just be ready for your own.

16 May 2018

How To Stay Healthy During Your Pregnancy

When you’re pregnant, you always want to make sure that you’re as healthy as possible. Not only do you want to be able to feel your best, but you also want to ensure that your baby is healthy too. It can feel like a lot of pressure, but you’ll be glad to know that staying healthy doesn’t actually have to be hard. So let’s take a look at some of the things that can help you here.

1. Stay Active

First of all, you really do have to make sure that you’re staying active. You may be tired and you may be achy (especially in the third trimester), but don’t let that stop you. If you are going to be able to keep your body healthy, staying active is important. Unless your doctor has advised you otherwise.

2. Stay Stress Free

Stress is a huge harm to your health. And this is something that you definitely want to avoid when you’re pregnant to stay healthy. So now you have the perfect excuse to rest more, pamper yourself in the evenings, and avoid difficult situations. All in the name of your pregnancy!

3. Focus On Vitamins

And finally, you know that you need to be eating well to nourish your body and fuel your baby’s growth during pregnancy, but you also need to focus on the right vitamin intake. Just take a look at the infographic below to see what this should be. When you can nail your nutrition and vitamins here, you’ll definitely stay healthy.


Infographic Design By Prenatals.com

13 May 2018

Transitions You Will Have to Guide Your Baby Through


Any parent will be able to tell you that babies grow quickly. Many will joke that all you have to do is blink and suddenly they’re grown adults, moving out, getting married, and having little ones of their own. While this is a slight exaggeration, it can often feel like changes are taking place at a rapid pace and it’s difficult to keep up. However, there are ways to make things a little more manageable. Everything becomes a whole lot more simple if you are prepared for the upcoming changes that your baby is going to go through. This allows you to tackle situations as they arise rather than slipping into panic and the situation passing before you have the chance to get to grips with it. So, to help you along the way, here are a few key stages and transitions that your little one will go through and how to help them through each.

Swaddling

Swaddling is an ancient practice that still proves extremely popular today. It involves snugly wrapping your baby in a thin blanket. This is said to help your baby to feel safe and secure, as they can’t move around excessively or roll over easily. It can help to soothe your baby and even reduce excessive crying (which will doubtless appeal to new parents who are desperate for a decent night’s sleep). However, a stage will come when your baby will need to start transitioning from swaddling. You will be able to tell that your kid is ready to give up swaddling by observing their behavior. If they seem desperate to escape their swaddle, fidgeting, and wiggling, it may be time to ditch the swaddling. But you should do this in stages rather than completely removing the swaddle from their routine all at once. Try leaving one arm out, then the other and slowly doing away with it.

Weaning

Weaning may prove to be a little harder than transitioning from swaddling. It’s the process in which a baby is weaned off milk and onto solid foods. Weaning generally starts when your baby reaches six months of age, and at this time it’s a good idea to introduce your baby to subtle new tastes and textures. Soft baby porridges are a good place to start. You can then start introducing foods that are specially formulated for babies, such as jarred baby food. These are easy for your little one to consume, but it helps to get them used to stronger flavors, such as apple, strawberry, carrot, and other vegetables. If you’re ever concerned about weaning, contact your doctor or your health visitor. They will be able to give you more in-depth information that is specifically tailored to your baby.

While helping your baby to transition from one habit into another may feel a little daunting or intimidating, they are essential processes that you will have to focus on at some point or another. These are just two examples. There are plenty of other transitions that you’ll face down the line!

08 May 2018

4 Ways to Support New Moms

Motherhood is truly a journey and it hits a woman as soon as the baby arrives. If you have a close friend who is making the transition into motherhood, consider these four ways you can support her and help her feel loved at the start of her new journey.

4 Ways to Support New Moms

1. Cook a few meals.
The baby is finally here, but the mother still needs to eat. Find out what some of her favorite foods are. Cook those dishes and bring them over to her home. If she loves food from a specific restaurant, order it and have it delivered to her home. She'll love the chance to enjoy a good meal without standing in the kitchen to make it.

2. Offer to babysit.
Pregnancy can really change a woman's body. Furthermore, labor and delivery can really be an intense experience. A new mother deserves a massage. To be kind and considerate, purchase a gift card to a local spa. Send the mother to get a nice massage and stay with her baby while she enjoys the massage. Babysit so that she can get a few hours to herself. Even if that means that you babysit while she goes in the other room and takes a nap, give her the opportunity to get some rest while you take care of the baby.

3. Send a few gifts.
Send a few gifts to let her know that you're thinking of her. Sometimes, when a new mother is in the trenches of the first few months, they can tend to feel like they're alone. Even if they're not alone, they're not getting a lot of sleep and might feel a bit delusional. Order nut gift baskets so she can get some protein on the go. Send a stunning bouquet of roses to brighten her home and her day. If you know a few of her favorite places to shop, send gift cards from those stores, so she can enjoy some shopping time.

4. Give her some space.
Now, it's important to remember that a new mother is dealing with a lot of stress. It's a new season of her life. She has a newborn that requires a lot of care. She's also not getting much rest. Be understanding and respectful of her time. More than likely, she's not going to want to hang out late at night. She's probably not going to want to go shopping with the baby. When you're constantly inviting her out or calling her, it can get potentially annoying. Consider having a conversation with her before the baby comes. Let her know that you're there for her if she needs you. At the same time, you're also going to give her time and space to bond with her baby. Let her be the one to say that she wants you to come around a lot. Otherwise, be considerate of her need for space.