13 October 2017

5 Scary Things Our Kids Do That We Shouldn't Sweat

It seems as though at every corner there is something new to worry about, as a parent. Teenage drug abuse. Sexual assault awareness. Education quality and performance. Self esteem issues. The list goes on and on and it can be enough to spark any parent into a frenzy.

Then you have the statistics that are enough to make anyone sick. The teenage suicide rate is up and seems to be applying to younger and younger kids, with teen girl’s suicide rates doubling since 2007. Drug abuse among underage users is on the decline, yet still alarmingly high.

With so much to genuinely worry about the only way to keep our sanity is to let go of the things that aren’t really a big deal. Here are five scary things our kids do that we shouldn’t sweat.

5 Scary Things Our Kids Do That We Shouldn't Sweat


1 - Too Much Screen Time

All pediatricians have been pushing for limited screen time in children at checkups for the last several years. But when they get to a certain age, especially once they have their own phones and tablets, it becomes near impossible to keep them off. This is nothing new, just think back to twenty years ago with Gameboys. Just make sure you are monitoring their use for safety reasons.

2 - Rebellion and Defiance

Constant fighting with your child, whether they are still young or getting into their teens, is so frustrating. It can seem as though they are just saying ‘no’ to make you angry. But this is pretty normal and part of their establishing boundaries and a sense of independence. Unless it is causing a major problem in their lives or the lives of your family, don’t worry too much about it.

3 - Overdramatics and Tantrums

There is a common joke among parents that tantrums are a normal part of having a two year old and a thirteen year old. That is a fair enough assessment...tantrums and overdramatics are a part of life for both. But where it is a sign of brain development for a young child, it is a sign of hormonal development for a teen. Try not to let it drive you too crazy.

4 - Secrecy and Lying

There is obviously a level with this one. If the secrecy and lies are about something serious then you have a problem. But in most cases little over exaggerations, secrecy and even straight up fibs are a pretty standard part of growing up. It has to do with the same rebellion mentioned before and tends to curb after a time.

5 - Sexual Curiosity

Another one that has a level, sexual curiosity is part of development for both boys and girls. So if you find they have been looking up “boobies” on the computer it isn’t a sign that they are deviant. It is just time to sit down and have a serious discussion about responsibility.

From the mountains of Utah, Tyler Jacobson writes about his experiences as a father and husband. By sharing the struggles and solutions his family has faced, Tyler hopes to help other parents looking for a way to better their lives. You can connect with Tyler and read his helpful insights on: Twitter | LinkedIn

26 September 2017

Building Positive Children: 4 Things To Say To Your Children Daily

Raising respectful, confident and positively- centered children takes work. You not only have to watch what you do but also what you say.

What you tell your children in your daily conversations has more impact than you might think. It influences their personality, self-esteem and self-identity. They also use it as a basis for relating with the outside world.

If you want positive children, start by keeping your communication positive. To quote the popular poem – Children Learn What They Live by Dorothy Law Nolte- when children live with encouragement, they learn confidence and when they live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

Building Positive Children: 4 Things To Say To Your Children Daily

With that in mind, I decided to share 4 things to say to your children every day:

1. Thank you. Social skills, courtesy and good manners are crucial in life and the best way to teach these to your children is by thanking them for things they do. It also shows your appreciation and gratitude, both important attitudes to instill in kids. Variations include- That was kind of you, You are a big help, I am grateful that you...

2. It’s ok. We all make mistakes. No one is perfect and we all mess up sometimes. Owning up to our mistakes and learning from them are vital life skills to have. Kids can beat themselves up and feel guilty for not meeting your expectations so let them know blunders are part of life and they should take responsibility then move on.

3. Good job! Nothing boosts your children’s confidence and motivates them more than receiving praise from you. It’s even more impactful if you relate it to your child’s efforts not just their success. Take care not to overdo it though and avoid praising them for achievements that come too easily. Others along this line include – You did that so well, You worked really hard on that! You are very good at…

4. What do you think? Giving your children a chance to have an input in family conversations is a great way to hone their decision-making skills. It also empowers them to express themselves and think of solutions. Additionally, it lets them know that their opinions are valued. Variations for this include- What do you feel about…? What would you do if…?

As you say these four things, don’t forget to tell your children that you love them and are proud of them. These simple but powerful words really have no substitute.

Remember that the earlier you start positively interacting with your children, the more time you have to shore up their esteem and confidence. After all, we know how difficult it is to get teens to converse with us, so build up the habit from a young age.

Finally, building positive children doesn’t mean you don’t correct them. You do -but you focus more on their positive attributes. So pepper your conversations with more positivity, encouragement and kind words and watch your children blossom.

Tyler Jacobson is a husband, father, freelance writer with experience with organizations that help troubled teens and parents. His areas of focus include: parenting, social media, addiction, mental illness, and issues facing teenagers today. Follow Tyler on: Twitter | LinkedIn

25 September 2017

Swimming In A Clean Pool

One of the responsibilities of owning a pool is to keep it clean and maintained. Whether you have an in-ground pool or one that is above the ground, the chores for cleaning are usually the same. Companies like 1st Direct Pools can come to the home to provide the maintenance that you need if you aren't sure how to clean or protect the pool or if you don't have the time.


Check the chemicals that are in the pool and the pH level. You should do this about twice a week in the summer. Even though you probably don't swim in the winter, you still need to check the chemical levels so that you're not performing as many tasks when the pool is opened again in the spring. While checking the pH, you might want to add chlorine depending on the levels that you read.

The skimmer in the pool helps to trap leaves, small animals, and other debris that get in the water. Check the skimmer once a week at least to make sure it's clean so that it functions properly. The device is often located on the side of the pool. Some are removable and can be used to go over the surface of the water to remove any debris that is present. The skimmer can be used to remove hair and lint from the water as well.

Monitor the water level in the pool. A little evaporation is expected, especially if the temperature is higher than normal. If you see a significant decrease in the water level, then you want to examine the pool for any leaks. The water level should be at the midpoint of the skimmer as this is a point where it's not too high or too low. Clean the filter regularly. If the filter gets clogged or too full, then you're going to notice the water turn cloudy and have more debris in it than normal. The filter will prevent excessive amounts of water from being wasted and is ideal if the pool is set up near a tree where leaves tend to fall more than if the pool is in an open area.

11 September 2017

Selecting a Great Plumber Can be Challenging

Chances are that you'll need services like drain cleaning, sewer repair, water heater repair or replacement, or even plumbing services for clogged drains and leaks at the most unexpected times. If you're like a lot of people, you may not have a good number to call, and you could find yourself frantically looking up a phone number in the middle of a catastrophe. You may simply choose the first number that comes up because you want the repairs done fast! Calling someone on the spur of the moment may not always lead to the best outcome.

Selecting a Great Plumber Can be Challenging


Doing Research Into Plumbers Is Your Best Bet

By doing research beforehand, before water is everywhere and about to cause damage in your home, you'll know exactly when you have a plumbing emergency. It pays to do some checking around to see who others recommend, and which organizations you would feel most comfortable about calling when you need them. This makes your decision easier. Once you've found a good company, be sure to save their number for emergency use or for use whenever a plumber is needed.

Researching Tampa plumbers or plumbers in the area closest to where you live can yield some interesting recommendations. You need to find plumbers who are experienced in exactly the issue you're having, and plumbers who are available preferably on a 24-hour a day, seven-day a week basis. With this type of availability, you'll feel comfortable calling them any time an emergency comes up. When you know that you've checked into things like their licensing, insurance, and Better Business Bureau standings, you know that you're making an informed decision.

Companies with a Social Conscience

Today, there are some plumbers and other home repair service people who also donate a portion of their profits to a worthwhile charity like breast cancer research. The reason they cite most often for these donations is that they have a strong sense of community involvement and concern. Chances are that they may have personal experience with a family member or friend who has been through a cancer fight. Or, it may simply be a cause that they feel strongly about and wish to help through donations.

A company that has a social conscience makes you feel better about hiring them to do the repair work that you know you're going to need to have done anyway. This way you'll know that your payment for services is also making a real, positive difference for your community. You get high quality repairs and the community benefits as well.

Plumbers are Highly Skilled and Reliable

What you'll often find about companies that donate portions of their revenue to charity is that they place a strong emphasis on being reliable, conscientious, courteous and professional. They have a great deal of pride in the service they deliver. They know that they have a lot at stake through their business and through their community involvement, and they strive for excellence.

Since you're probably going to call a professional anyway next time the sink is clogged, the water heater bursts, the pipes leak, or you need professional sewer repair, why not choose a company that will also help out a worthwhile cause? This is always something you can genuinely feel good about doing!

13 August 2017

Always Protect Your Skin From the Sun

Spending time in the sun is something that millions of people love to do. This is especially true for people who live in areas that do not have many months of nice weather. However, it is very important to understand the dangers presented by allowing your skin to have prolonged exposure to the sun's rays. You need to be aware that you could develop very serious problems if you fail to take the proper steps to keep your skin protected. Here are a few of the primary reasons why protecting your skin should be at the top of your list of priorities during the summer months.



1. Your skin could start to peel off if it gets too much sun exposure.

You have probably seen the unsightly appearance of people who have been in the sun for too long without protecting their skin. At some point, the skin will start to peel off. Needless to say, this is not a very attractive look. The peeling usually does not begin the same day the person is in the sun. It usually starts a day or two later once the skin cells have died. The peeling usually lasts several days. This is not a pleasant experience if the skin that peels off is exposed for other people to see.

2. Your skin could get a very painful sunburn.

Most people have experienced what a sunburn feels like at some point in their life. The amount of pain that you feel will depend on the severity of the sunburn and the amount of time you were in the sun. A sunburn can sometimes make it painful just to move your body and perform simple activities. Severe sunburns can take more than one week to heal completely. In the meantime, the person is forced to endure a large amount of pain. There is no reason to put yourself in a situation like this. Using reef safe sunscreen on a regular basis will protect your skin and help to ensure that no serious sunburn develops. This type of sunscreen is safe for the environment. It will not destroy reefs or other fragile ocean habitats.

3. Skin cancer is the most serious danger for people who spend lots of time in the sun.

Many people never think about skin cancer when they are laying in the sun for hours trying to get a tan. However, skin cancer is very real and potentially deadly if it is not caught in the early stages. This is why you need to have any small spots on your skin checked out by a dermatologist immediately. Otherwise, you are putting yourself at risk of having a very serious problem.